tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post7658217941953299938..comments2024-03-27T07:35:21.832-07:00Comments on Plants are the Strangest People: Random plant event: Pelargonium x Hortorum 'Vancouver Centennial' flower bud, plus Personal-ish: funeralsmr_subjunctivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14113199755474482747noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-969478181309756752009-12-01T22:15:26.214-08:002009-12-01T22:15:26.214-08:00On the way home from school with my 11 year old (o...On the way home from school with my 11 year old (on Friday), she asked me, "Mom, do you think gay marriage should be legal"? Hmmm, unexpected question and not a topic that we have ever discussed. I may have skirted the issue entirely and I'm still not sure, but I told her that I know our church frowns on it, but really, I can't see how love and all kindness that evolves from Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11358181863118514617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-57603836969581995052009-12-01T14:31:34.911-08:002009-12-01T14:31:34.911-08:00If the holidays aren't tough enough. I'm ...If the holidays aren't tough enough. I'm am sorry. I've been to "those funerals", too. But I've been to one as well for an old friend. The really large chapel was packed, he was wearing a "smart" outfit, tearful friends stood up and spoke, close friends went up to his casket and left him gifts (cigarettes, a martini glass). I just connected these thoughts: Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16157968454131571365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-16932455984611685542009-12-01T14:06:54.954-08:002009-12-01T14:06:54.954-08:00Ginny Burton:
Well, it's still possible at th...Ginny Burton:<br /><br />Well, it's still possible at this point that they <i>won't</i> ask me to go; there's been at least one wedding that happened without me, though I don't remember whether they gave a reason for not asking me to go or not.<br /><br />In the event, I'd be more inclined to tell Mom and Dad straight up what's what and let them decide whether it's mr_subjunctivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14113199755474482747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-51374314938665179062009-12-01T13:31:30.314-08:002009-12-01T13:31:30.314-08:00Okay, I understand. As a bi woman, I know how dif...Okay, I understand. As a bi woman, I know how difficult it is to come out to family, and how painful it is to be asked to go back in, for special occasions.<br /><br />However, if the reason that you haven't come out to your extended family is in deference to you parents' feelings, then surely they owe you the courtesy of not expecting you to attend any family functions where your Ginny Burtonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-12835863829182033222009-12-01T11:26:43.379-08:002009-12-01T11:26:43.379-08:00I'm sorry for all the (potential) family drama...I'm sorry for all the (potential) family drama, Mr_S. I hope you don't have to go either. Funerals aren't for the dead, and as you and others point out, they aren't really for the living most of the time, either.<br /><br />My mother's funeral was something I had arrange because it was expected in her circle (church, friends and extended family), not because it was going to Karen715https://www.blogger.com/profile/15979479537943300181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-42119805167969528462009-12-01T10:54:08.539-08:002009-12-01T10:54:08.539-08:00Oh, and P.S. I know what you mean about being affe...Oh, and P.S. I know what you mean about being affected by the grief of people close to the deceased, to a distracting degree. It can be just heartbreaking to think of their loss, on their terms.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-4100880833413796382009-12-01T10:52:25.522-08:002009-12-01T10:52:25.522-08:00I agree wholeheartedly. Funerals are just simply a...I agree wholeheartedly. Funerals are just simply awkward. I was once at one for my great-aunt, and the pastor remarked in his eulogy, "Your presence here to celebrate Mary Lou's life confirms your belief in Jesus Christ," and it was only for not humiliating my mother that I remained seated. Gah!<br /><br />One outlier funeral I found moving was my grandfather's; he was in WWII, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-20630534885017483992009-12-01T08:44:09.119-08:002009-12-01T08:44:09.119-08:00Happy Hermit:
Yeah, my mom is particularly irrita...Happy Hermit:<br /><br />Yeah, my mom is particularly irritated by the giving of flowers, and has a whole rant about the practice (which I paraphrased in <a href="http://plantsarethestrangestpeople.blogspot.com/2008/09/funeral-plants-part-i-for-senders.html" rel="nofollow">this post</a>), which I kind of agree with.mr_subjunctivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14113199755474482747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-85035768956688816472009-12-01T08:40:22.086-08:002009-12-01T08:40:22.086-08:00Ginny Burton:
*sigh*
Yes, probably I should, but...Ginny Burton:<br /><br />*sigh*<br /><br />Yes, probably I should, but . . . well, the main reason why I don't is that Mom and Dad would (rightly?) interpret it as an attack. Whether or not it would necessarily be a particularly bad thing if they did, given the circumstances, I don't know, but it's one of those things I can't take back once it's started.<br /><br />Also I mr_subjunctivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14113199755474482747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-22497401477869705072009-12-01T07:55:53.542-08:002009-12-01T07:55:53.542-08:00I never got the giving of dead and dying flowers f...I never got the giving of dead and dying flowers for any occasion . Now Flower Seeds , or living plants actually planted on em would make more sense to me.<br /><br />I want an apple tree over my non-processed dead self , so that generations later people could just eat me. LOL<br /><br />I have visited an ancestral grandma (great great great maternal) tree for peaches before , I like the idea so Happy Hermit (happilyhiddenhermit@gmail.com)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02519948709090732780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2481706068105246695.post-83115859945672599002009-12-01T03:48:57.699-08:002009-12-01T03:48:57.699-08:00I am not only not offended, I'm with you all t...I am not only not offended, I'm with you all the way. As my adorable Aunt Polly once said, funerals are terribly hard on the survivors. I'm not having one either--cremation, followed by improving the soil with my ashes, will be my final exit. (Although when I put my friend Paul's ashes around a Styrax japonicus {japonica?} that I was planting, it died. Not sure if it was cause andGinny Burtonnoreply@blogger.com